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Hi. I’m Matt (The beginning of my journey)

July 15, 2015 — by Matt

I've been told a journey starts with a single step. This post is mine.

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If I were to meet my 7-year-old self today and ask him to describe himself and what he liked, he might say something like “I’m Matt. I like to make things. I like music and food. When I grow up I want to make music and art and go to far away places.” Or, he might try to say those things through a mouthful of grilled cheese sandwich.

If you asked me the same question today, I might tell you the same thing. Although my love of grilled cheese has waned since then, a lot of the things that are important to me have remained the same.

Starting to realize what really drives me and makes me tick is the beginning of my journey.

BECOMING A GROWNUP

β€œRemember, too, that all who succeed in life get off to a bad start, and pass through many heartbreaking struggles before they “arrive”. The turning point in the lives of those who succeed usually comes at some moment of crisis, through which they are introduced to their “other selves”.” – Napoleon Hill

 

In 2009 I secured my first full-time job out of college. This was the glorious finish line of the path I was “supposed to” walk since my youth; work hard, earn good grades, get into a good university, graduate with honors, land a good job with benefits. I had made it! My new post-education life had begun, and I hit the ground running.

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Ready to hit the ground running…

And it started out OK. But soon I started to notice people around me grow up and then stop growing. I saw a culture that praised stability to the detriment of disruption. Worse yet, I realized I had started to slip into a state of complacency myself. It was only a matter of time before I stopped setting new goals, making new memories, and realizing my potential now that I had “come of age.”

And I decided I needed to make a change before losing myself to the abyss.

“If you’re losing your soul and you know it, then you’ve still got a soul left to lose.” – Charles Bukowski

 

The epiphany wasn’t a lightning strike of inspiration. I didn’t wake up one day, jump out of bed, try to click my heels together, fall, get up, shout “Eureka” and put together a plan to change my life. (I did do some of those things). The “epiphany” was a change in thinking that slowly became more real over time as I learned more about myself and what was important – a transformation that I still feel I’m at the very beginning of today. There are days, even weeks sometimes where the clouds of the daily grind, stress, and distraction obscure my epiphany and my resolve finds itself off-track. But the seeds have been planted, and progress must be made.

SO WHY START A BLOG?

Early in my journey I discovered the power of starting a conversation about your goals and struggles. As a generally private person, honestly sharing what I was working on improving in my life and where I was having trouble not only took me out of my comfort zone, but helped me start a dialog with those around me who were going through similar changes. I believe we all have the capacity for change at any age, and having “grown up” is not an excuse to not make changes.

But I don’t have all the answers; I might not have any of them. As motivated as I am by the writing of others who have built an inspiring and creative life for themselves, I often find myself unsure of how to take the first step. So this blog is me trying, failing, documenting, and learning.

I WOULD LIKE THIS BLOG TO:

  • Be a journal of my path to transforming my life, including my steps taken, my roadblocks, and my lessons learned.
  • Start a conversation with others on a similar wave and help each other.
  • Inspire others to take steps in the direction of changing their life.

First step: taken. Join me for more.

In the next article I’ll discuss how to set the important principles that will help focus your energy, and why defining your ideal self first is often more important than defining your specific goals.

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Matt

Simply on a quest to become unboring. Artist, Producer, part-time word-putter-together at BoringGrownups.com. SPIRAL SURFER. Chasing freedom. Only getting weirder.

  • Jannelle Fontes

    Amazing. πŸ™‚

  • Dorothy Vaccaro

    I also find myself on a quest to become unboring – more so now than ever. After my 30th birthday I panicked. Actually that’s not true … I’ve probably been freaking out about it for a good two years prior as well. Nonetheless I’m actively in the pursuit of career happiness and terrified of not figuring out what exactly is going to get me to that point of self-actualization.

    As I was reading this, I had to laugh at your characterization of yourself. I find it so interesting to compare the stark differences between how we see ourselves and how others see us. If I went through a list of people I know and had to identify those I consider “boring,” you certainly wouldn’t make that list. I applaud you in opening up your private world to friends and strangers alike and am curious to see the website develop. Miss ya, buddy!

    • Dorothy – I guess that’s true, we all think of ourselves a little differently than the world does. Thanks for the comments too! Your feedback and posts on facebook in the last months have definitely helped me feel comfortable sharing where I’m at and where I’m going. And I’m happy to hear you’re in pursuit as well! Whether there is one point of self-actualization, that one zenith to reach, or just the act of acceptance and pursuing growth, I think it’s a worthwhile endeavor πŸ™‚

  • Zara Northover

    Gooooo MATT MATT GOOOOOO blog your self to DETROIT please lots to take in, soak up and express right along the Detroit river front with your home girl Z πŸ™‚

    • Thanks Z! I know it’s still on my list for sure! I’m doing some traveling for work coming up and if it works out location-wise I’ll try to swing by there!

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